Most parents are exhausted, over-committed, guilty, and burnt out. This talk explores how to increase our capacity for self-care using principles of the dharma. We explore the challenging voices that prevent us from being self-compassionate, and how we can work with them. We then talk about how to increase "outer self-care" -- practical things parents can do, and then "inner self care"-- increasing joy as a radical act and finding a depth of well-being no matter what is happening in life.